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Are We Lost Forever – A delicate yet powerful discussion on lost love

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At what point does the hope, optimism and passion of a relationship end? This question sits at the heart of David Färdmar’s feature debut, as love, separation, regret and desire merge. Here, there is no melodrama, no lazy cliches and no simple conclusions. Instead, we have a delicate, loving, painful and real portrayal of the endings and beginnings surrounding life. The journey we take alongside Adrian (Björn Elgerd) and Hampus (Jonathan Andersson) full of the raw emotion surrounding a separation. While at the same time, reflecting an eternal truth; while one partner may move on, the other will often struggle to accept the finality of separation.

At some time or another, we have all had the conversation that opens ‘Are We Lost Forever‘. A conversation that is potentially so painful that we push it to the sidelines. But, as days turn into weeks and weeks into months, eventually it surfaces with the devastating words ‘there’s no more we’. The reality of the hidden despair, pain and sense of disconnect of a failing relationship suddenly aired. For some, this conversation comes as a relief, while for others, it acts as a random lightning bolt on an otherwise sunny day. But, whatever the reaction, it is a conversation usually expected by both partners; the resulting fallout less than clear.

In a bed, once a centre of love and sensuality, Hampus finally confronts his fiancee Adrian with this very conversation. And while it’s not the first time the couple have split. This time there is a sense of finality in Hampus’ comments that Adrian cannot control. Adrian’s mind a forest of questions, regret and unresolved hurt as he attempts to understand the finality of the moment. While simultaneously, knowing that his behaviour and closed emotions have helped create the ending now at play. But, as both men go their separate ways, one will find freedom and rebirth, while the other wallows in regret. And as time goes by, both men’s paths will cross; their sexual history, pain and past love merging into a sea of unresolved turmoil. However, while one will move on, the other will mourn the lost opportunities he may never reclaim.

Färdmar’s screenplay is beautiful in construct, allowing both Adrian and Hampus a distinct and engaging voice throughout. But it is in his delicate yet powerful discussion on lost love that Are We Lost Forever sings. Here, Färdmar reflects the inescapable fact that no loving relationship ever really reaches a finale. The intimate connections built, whether good or bad, burning a place in the heart. With each subsequent relationship, often held hostage by memories of ‘what could have been’. And when coupled with the outstanding lead performances of both Björn Elgerd and Jonathan Andersson, this is a film that burns as brightly as the emotions at its core. While at the same time, allowing for raw, honest discussions on sex and relationships that men would often rather ignore, to their detriment.



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